Friday, December 12, 2008

December

Sorry I am late with this post but it has been a crazy day. Spent the better part at a funeral and had to think how odd that I would spend this day..the full moon, at yet another funeral and then a mercy meal at the Community House. I used to think it was just horrible to have a loss at the holidays but now I know it doesn't make one bit of difference...they are never the same.

I did think of my post today and it occured to me that everyone should center their thoughts on the gifts they do have, right this minute, and be sure to take some time to appreciate them. John was certainly a master of that...he would have someone waiting in the driveway to pick him up and run to the shower because he had been writing music too long (sorry Tim, I did yell at him for that). But he never got worked up about it...and aren't we all so happy now to have his beautiful words and songs. And aren't we all glad that he did spend that extra minute with us..never rushing us..just being there..in the moment...for us.

It is so easy to get caught up in the things you think you should do at this time of year that it just isn't fun when the family comes..we are too worn out..Take it from John, being good to yourself allows you to give the gift of yourself to others, and that is something to treasure. So relax, no one remembers anything but the laughs and acts of kindness! So, focus on giving those to everyone you meet this year!

Love to all!

1 comment:

Billy R said...

Hey John's mom, great advice. It is so easy to get caught up in those things we feel we "must" do and burn out before the visiting with family and friends even begins. Recently, I had an experience during a vacation that illuminates your point exactly. By the time the vacation came around, the very people who were supposed to be enjoying each other (family) were too tired, grumpy or irritable to be enjoyed.

A smile and a positive attitude are contagious. In the spirit and memory of John, I hope everyone who reads on this site will give the best of themselves this holiday season and truly enjoy one another.

God Bless and Happy Holidays.